Most expat women are usually in a couple and/or with kids. In France I am finding myself as the rare woman on her own. This is hard.
Other expat women admire me...and are as glad as hell they they aren't me.
They do not include you into their home circle . They are happy to go for a drink with you once a year as long as you fit into the slot where hubby isnt around and OH MY GOD- they have to actually spend sone TIME ALONE!!!!! Hit the panic button.
This is the hard part about being that '"independant woman".
In 2011 you would hope that life has changed and they would include "the single woman" , but they dont and wont.
A little devil inside me found myself wanting to shock them out of their smug comfort. Recently, in a girly lunch time chat, I said that I would shag a marrried man.
They froze. Not because they thought their bloke would shag me, but because I was " breaking the sisterhood taboo". Actually I wouldn't. I know myself. But I felt they deserved a little REALITY check about their total selfish attitude.
I am missing London Town for the networks of alternative family that we create. Couples, single parents, gays, singles - we somehow hang in there together.... if its a celebration. Easter/Xmas people are invited , not left out in the cold. I know for sure if I was in a relationship abroad- I would definately be including my single friends on National Holidays...
But generally expats are a straight lot. Their version of family is sooooo last century. Soooo 2.4.
So friggin straight.